So the iPhone 4s came out not too long ago... and millions quickly adopted it. Among those millions was a married man who suspected his married wife was having sex with an unmarried man... and he was right.
You ever heard of an app called "Find my Friends"? Well, I guess his wife hadn't either. This fella bought her the phone, installed it without her knowing, and caught her lying about her location while being in a place that he suspected her lover lived.
He put it like this:
"Divorcing wife. Thanks iPhone 4s and Find My Friends."
"I got my wife a new 4s and loaded up find my friends without her knowing. She told me she was at her friends house in the east village. I've had suspicions about her meeting this guy who live uptown. Lo and behold, Find my Friends has her right there. "
"I just texted her asking where she was and the dumb b---- said she was on 10th Street!! Thank you Apple, thank you App Store, thank you all. These beautiful treasure trove of screen shots [sic] going to play well when I meet her ... at the lawyer's office in a few weeks."
"thankfully, she's the rich one."
He also included this screenshot and said the following:
"She said she is in meat packing district which is on 12th street. I DONT THINK SO. Appreciate the support. Not my finest hour here but going to get better soon."
And so I pose the question, when will marriage be marriage again? I understand that we have made bad sex an absolute deal breaker but, considering that most people aren't waiting until marriage and they probably, at a minimum, fooled around once before, you knew whether or not the sex was bad ahead of time. So what led to this woman to step out on this man? We may never know the dynamics of that particular relationship but we can look into reasons that could possibly lead a person to infidelity since bad sex has been ruled out (disclaimer: NONE of these reasons are good as there is no excuse for infidelity. Get counseling or, if you absolutely have to, end the marriage.)
1. The shoulder to cry on became the private to play with - There is a lack of communication. Needs aren't met because you aren't clear or comfortable sharing them with the person you're with or they flat out don't listen to you. You hooked up on that "feeling" and forgot to be friends who could talk about everything. You talk to everyone BUT your significant other about the problems in your relationship. Single friends of the same sex put ideas in your head and single "friends" of the opposite sex put their bid in. (notice: the quotes on "friends" of the opposite sex).
2. You've decided to "Stay and Quit" - Your marriage is over. Its been over. You got married for the wrong reasons and now those reasons are gone - be it money, or fame, or sex appeal, or just plain old "I just wanted to be married and they were willing to do it" desperation. You say you don't believe in divorce so you stay with the person but quit trying to make the relationship work. Insert new friend "here" - They fullfil all the needs of the relationship part of the marriage and become your psuedo spouse. It happens at work. It happens at school. It happens.
3. One (or both) of you is simply an extremely selfish, narcissistic, whore/nymphomaniac - no explanation needed here.
4. Low self esteem - Either he doesn't make her feel "pretty" or she doesn't make him feel like a "man". As long as you aren't verbally abusive, this isn't your fault. But the person would sure like for you to take the blame for their internal issues and insecurity that led to their own lack of self control.
5. You stopped being "you" - You got comfortable. You stopped doing everything you did to get the person. You forgot that, even after you get married, you have to keep dating. Marriage is not a time to let yourself go. You need to stay on your A game as every single person out there is trying their best to look like some greener grass, when they're probably just some astro turf laid nicely over some cement blocks. You gotta shift your mentality from "getting a spouse" to "keeping your spouse". And, no, that doesn't excuse your mate from their fidelity obligations; I'm just saying to take away any excuse that poor excuse of a spouse may have before they try to use that excuse on you. (Lol)
At any rate, I'm done being silly now, and, with that being said, let me reiterate: Cheating is NEVER cool or appropriate. This is here for entertainment purposes only. There is no excuse for this selfish behavior. Do whatever you have to do to make your marriage work without sharing your privates.
If you wanna she the full article about the man who used Find your Friends to catch his wife cheating click here.
You ever heard of an app called "Find my Friends"? Well, I guess his wife hadn't either. This fella bought her the phone, installed it without her knowing, and caught her lying about her location while being in a place that he suspected her lover lived.
He put it like this:
"Divorcing wife. Thanks iPhone 4s and Find My Friends."
"I got my wife a new 4s and loaded up find my friends without her knowing. She told me she was at her friends house in the east village. I've had suspicions about her meeting this guy who live uptown. Lo and behold, Find my Friends has her right there. "
"I just texted her asking where she was and the dumb b---- said she was on 10th Street!! Thank you Apple, thank you App Store, thank you all. These beautiful treasure trove of screen shots [sic] going to play well when I meet her ... at the lawyer's office in a few weeks."
"thankfully, she's the rich one."
He also included this screenshot and said the following:
"She said she is in meat packing district which is on 12th street. I DONT THINK SO. Appreciate the support. Not my finest hour here but going to get better soon."
And so I pose the question, when will marriage be marriage again? I understand that we have made bad sex an absolute deal breaker but, considering that most people aren't waiting until marriage and they probably, at a minimum, fooled around once before, you knew whether or not the sex was bad ahead of time. So what led to this woman to step out on this man? We may never know the dynamics of that particular relationship but we can look into reasons that could possibly lead a person to infidelity since bad sex has been ruled out (disclaimer: NONE of these reasons are good as there is no excuse for infidelity. Get counseling or, if you absolutely have to, end the marriage.)
1. The shoulder to cry on became the private to play with - There is a lack of communication. Needs aren't met because you aren't clear or comfortable sharing them with the person you're with or they flat out don't listen to you. You hooked up on that "feeling" and forgot to be friends who could talk about everything. You talk to everyone BUT your significant other about the problems in your relationship. Single friends of the same sex put ideas in your head and single "friends" of the opposite sex put their bid in. (notice: the quotes on "friends" of the opposite sex).
2. You've decided to "Stay and Quit" - Your marriage is over. Its been over. You got married for the wrong reasons and now those reasons are gone - be it money, or fame, or sex appeal, or just plain old "I just wanted to be married and they were willing to do it" desperation. You say you don't believe in divorce so you stay with the person but quit trying to make the relationship work. Insert new friend "here" - They fullfil all the needs of the relationship part of the marriage and become your psuedo spouse. It happens at work. It happens at school. It happens.
3. One (or both) of you is simply an extremely selfish, narcissistic, whore/nymphomaniac - no explanation needed here.
4. Low self esteem - Either he doesn't make her feel "pretty" or she doesn't make him feel like a "man". As long as you aren't verbally abusive, this isn't your fault. But the person would sure like for you to take the blame for their internal issues and insecurity that led to their own lack of self control.
5. You stopped being "you" - You got comfortable. You stopped doing everything you did to get the person. You forgot that, even after you get married, you have to keep dating. Marriage is not a time to let yourself go. You need to stay on your A game as every single person out there is trying their best to look like some greener grass, when they're probably just some astro turf laid nicely over some cement blocks. You gotta shift your mentality from "getting a spouse" to "keeping your spouse". And, no, that doesn't excuse your mate from their fidelity obligations; I'm just saying to take away any excuse that poor excuse of a spouse may have before they try to use that excuse on you. (Lol)
At any rate, I'm done being silly now, and, with that being said, let me reiterate: Cheating is NEVER cool or appropriate. This is here for entertainment purposes only. There is no excuse for this selfish behavior. Do whatever you have to do to make your marriage work without sharing your privates.
If you wanna she the full article about the man who used Find your Friends to catch his wife cheating click here.