What if my friends selected my mate?

You know what I was thinking about this morning?  What if the law was that your friends had to select your significant other? Would you have someone good, someone bad, or no one at all?   The reason I asked is because I was thinking about two separate situations in the past: one where my homeboy told me that I "could do better" concerning (what I thought) was a good female friend of mine at the time and another where I offered that same homeboy, who was deciding between two women, some advice on how he should handle the situation.  The crazy thing is that the advice was spot on and neither one of us listened.

I don't want to talk about those specific instances though; I want to talk in general.  Would you trust your friend to pick out a good mate for you? Close friends typically have a lot of say in the development of the type person you select when you're coming up through grade school and, for many, this continues into adulthood. Now, that sentence may not be true for everyone but, I know many people who seek out their friends for advice/counsel when it comes to selecting a mate and that advice does hold a little weight.  Don't get me wrong, there is a bass line for attractiveness but when you start going into "they gotta have this type of hair/clothes/shoes/money, etc..." a lot of that is influenced by the people you let influence you over the years - your close peers - your friends.  They either do this by what they say, what they do, or by their reactions to what YOU do.

Truthfully, if you really look at the question "What if the law was that your friends had to select your significant other?" you would see that it is more of a self examining question.  While a ridiculous notion for it to be "law", in a sense, your friends are a part of your selection process when choosing your mate simply because of the influence they have on your thoughts from being around so much... Considering that, the question that really needs to be asked is "Are the people around me smart when it comes to selecting a mate?" Depending on the health of your relationship (or lack thereof) the answer to this question might be worth thinking about...

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